FIVE QUESTIONS FOR .... Maureen Regan and Julie Vargo / Two authors bring infertility out of the closet

FIVE QUESTIONS FOR .... Maureen Regan and Julie Vargo / Two authors bring infertility out of the closet: "In metropolitan areas, there's a delay in having children because women go to these areas to have careers. The older you get, the more precious time you lose to have a child. Women here are beautiful -- 50 is the new 30. It's a very healthy city to live in, San Francisco. You're looking at yourself in the mirror and you look great. But it's not connecting -- the idea that just because you look good on the outside, that your eggs look good on the inside. Vargo: Women only have 12 times a year to get pregnant, and that's only if the egg is released, if the cilia, or hairs, in the Fallopian tubes, push the egg from the ovary and if you have sex at the right time, along with a lot of other factors. Q: How can women balance their quest for fertility -- and all the anxiety it produces -- with the rest of their lives? Regan: Our culture is about 'I want this, I want this now.' You have to keep your mind open rather than say, 'I can only have children this way.' That puts limits on how you will find your family. Vargo: You get baby lust, baby stress. "