Monday, August 02, 2021

Why are IVF patients so proud of their ignorance ?


Many patients who have failed an IVF cycle ask me for a free second opinion by email , which we offer on our website at

I ask them basic questions , such as - What medications were used for superovulation ; or what the quality of their embryos was , and they are often completely blank . They don’t know this basic information , and this always surprises me , because I can't believe IVF  patients will spend so much time , money and energy on doing such an important treatment without actually doing their homework . You need to do your research , so you know what the right questions are, and can get answers to them.

While it’s true that doctors are very busy people , and often will not entertain their patient’s questions , it is equally true that it is in the patient’s best interests to be well informed , so they know exactly what's happening .

This is why your doctor’s website is often a better source of information than your doctor . You are understandably reluctant to ask your doctor questions during the consultation, because you are worried that he many get irritated if you ask him any. Also, you are reluctant to waste his time by asking him questions , because there is a long line of patients waiting to see him ; and you are worried that your questions may appear to be stupid .

The doctor’s website, on the other hand, is extremely patient, and will allow you to ask as many questions as you like , and will answer them for you as well !

While it maybe true that the doctor is reluctant to share information with you because it allows him to hide his incompetence, you have no excuse for choosing to remain ignorant .

This kind of information asymmetry is harmful for patients , and that's why you need to do your homework before starting your treatment.

While it’s it's true that there is a lot of high quality information available on the web it's also equally true that there is even more poor quality, unreliable and outdated information available online as well.

The best way to differentiate between high-quality information and poor-quality information is to study lots of information , so that you learn what is reliable and what is a lie.

Remember that the quality of the information on a clinic’s website is often likely to be far better than what your doctor will tell you .  He may have a vested interest in not sharing the truth with you during a consultation, because he is trying to sell his services, and he can get away with making tall claims within the four walls of his clinic , but it's much harder for him to lie on a website where the information is publicly accessible , and he will get pulled up if he lies.

You need to have a strategy for evaluating information, because there is so much of it. The good thing about being a patient is you can be patient. You have a lot of time to access this information , and it's in your best interest to do your homework before starting an IVF cycle , rather than leave everything up to the doctor


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Sunday, August 01, 2021

Artificial Insemination ( AIH) at home as an alternative to IUI in the clinic

For many infertile couples , a very effective and simple treatment option is called IUI – also know as IntraUterine Insemination or AIH - Artificial Insemination by Husband . This is especially useful in couples with unexplained infertility ( where we cannot find a medical reason for why they are not getting pregnant in their bedroom); and for those with sexual dysfunction,  where they cannot consummate the marriage because of vaginismus, erectile dysfunction ( ED or impotence) ; or premature ejaculation.

In all these patients, artificial insemination allows us to bypass the natural sexual process , because we can deposit the sperms in the woman directly .

In an IUI cycle, the sperms are processed in the laboratory , where they are cleaned and concentrated; and the doctor inserts these inside the uterine cavity before , or just after ovulation – at the time of your peak fertility. This is much less expensive than IVF treatment, and conceptually it allows us to increase the chances of the egg and sperm meeting.

For patients, doing an artificial insemination is costly, and can be emotionally extremely stressful. Doctors charge money, and it’s no fun to take time off work, and then go to the doctor’s clinic, and wait endlessly for your appointment . Lying down in the scan room, with your legs up in the air , while someone puts a probe into your vagina is hardly fun . Doctors often treat scans as “routine” , and some can be quite rough, which makes the scans painful as well. Having to make make repeated visits during a treatment cycle adds to your stress , and your costs.

What’s worse is you are completely clueless about what’s happening and why. Doctors aren’t communicative, and you don’t know if your cycle is progressing well or not , because they don’t share information. Also, each part of the IUI treatment is done by a different doctor, some of whom are in different locations, which means you need to run around from one doctor to another. The doctor who does the scans – a sonographer , is often not your gynecologist, and finally when the follicle ruptures ( you ovulate), your husband needs to provide the semen sample in the laboratory which processes the sperm sample, and then delivers it the clinician for the actual insemination.

There is often complete lack of coordination between the scan centre , the clinic , and the lab , and patients often have to run around between them. This can be very frustrating , and getting your husband to take time off work to provide a semen sample on demand is also very challenging.

The good news is a much simpler and much less expensive option is to actually do the artificial insemination at home yourself,

A simple way of doing this is using the self insemination kit which we provide.

This allows you to do the insemination in the privacy of your own bedroom . Since you are monitoring your own ovulation cycle , you don’t need to waste time and money going to the clinic , which means doing a self insemination becomes inexpensive , and very cost effective .

Finally, do have realistic expectations regarding success rates please ! Human reproduction is not very efficient, and even fertile couples take time to make a baby in the bedroom, so you do need to be patient. The chances of success if everything is normal, and you do the procedure properly, is about 40% in 4 cycles.



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Saturday, July 31, 2021

How to find the best IVF doctor - a guide for IVF patients? [Video]


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What IVF patients need to do to stop remaining confused and ignorant


It both amazes and dismays me how poorly informed IVF patients are,  even after they have completed an IVF cycle . 

I know this because I offer a free second opinion by email on our website at Patients ho have failed an IVF cycle can send me their IVF medical records , so I can review them and guide them as to what they can do to maximize their chances of success in the next cycle.

I request them to send me photographs of their embryos, so I can assess the quality of their medical care . After all, the only tangible deliverable an IVF Clinic can provide is embryos, and top quality embryos means your clinic did a good job with your medical treatment.

After all, the only thing an IVF clinic can do is make embryos. Whether they implant after the transfer is not something which anyone can control, because embryo implantation is still a Black Box which we don’t understand well.

Embryo quality is tangible , and because it can be objectively documented as a photo, it’s reliable and can be trusted.

However, patients often reply to my request by saying – The doctor did not give us a photograph of the embryos ; I did not know that the doctor was supposed to give me photos of my embryos. Even worse, they will send me a photograph of the ultrasound scan which the doctor did while doing the ultrasound-guided transfer . The reason this upsets me is because this clearly means they don’t understand what embryos look like .

This means that not only did they not bother to do their research before starting their IVF treatment, their doctor did not bother to educate them , and has chosen to hide information from them, for reasons best known to him.

I worry when doctors aren’t transparent – what are they hiding, and why ?

This is why patients need to address the problem of Information asymmetry proactively .

Please do your homework before you start your IVF cycle , rather than kick yourself after the cycle has failed , that you didn’t take the time and trouble to get the information you required from your doctor !

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Friday, July 30, 2021

Knowledge is Power for IVF Patients - the Importance of Information Therapy

 IVF patients are often confused as to whether they should look for information online for themselves.

After all, we all know  that half knowledge is dangerous , and that it’s not a good idea to try to treat yourself . After all, your doctor is the medical expert – why not let him make all the decisions ? After all, he comes highly recommended – and aren’t you paying him enough ? Why not let him do his job, instead of trying to second guess him ?

Many husbands discourage their wives from spending time on the Internet , because they feel that get completely obsessed with this exercise. They waste so much time online, looking for information - and then get completely confused , because so much of the information is unreliable and contradictory . They often end up worse off than before they started searching, because they don’t know whom or what to trust !

Also, internet positive patients often end up irritating doctors , who feel that patients are trying to act extra smart . They don't really want to answer the patient’s questions , because this takes them too much time and energy .

The truth is that you need to learn how to search the Internet properly .

Reliable information is invaluable , because it reduce your stress levels .

A huge problem which plagues IVF is the uncertainty which surrounds it, and this creates a lot of anxiety , because you don't know what is going to happen next . The fear of the unknown often puts patients off from even starting an IVF cycle, because of all the horror stories they have heard about side effects and complications.

Also, even if you do screw up your courage and start the cycle, you are often flying blind during your treatment, because the doctor often refuses to share information, and being in the dark can be very uncomfortable ! Is your cycle going well ? Can the doctor do something to improve your chances ? Is it only the assistants who are making all the medical decisions ?

On the other hand , if you are well informed , you are in control, because you know what's happening , and what to expect next. You can have intelligent discussions with your doctor , and ask intelligent questions . Remember, Knowledge is Power, and it’s much easier to deal with the ups and downs of the IVF roller coaster ride if you know what to expect.

The secret is to become a well-informed internet searcher, and it's helpful to remember that not all websites are created equal .

If you are looking for reliable information on IVF , please go to

This is information we have authored personally , and I can guarantee you that this information is easy to understand, updated and reliable

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Thursday, July 29, 2021

Tuesday, July 27, 2021

Doctor, my HCG level is 120 mIU/ml. Does this confirm my pregnancy is healthy ? [Video]


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