Saturday, August 31, 2019

Is your doctor a good IVF doctor?

How to find an IVF clinic which cares about you

All IVF patients want to select IVF clinics which have a high pregnancy rate, but it's very hard for them to judge what the real success rates are.
Most clinics will not share this information, or will manipulate it in order to fool patients. That's why it seems that all IVF clinics today have a 80% success rate !
This is because every clinic claims that they have the highest success rate - and there is no one to check whether or not they are telling the truth !
So what's a patient supposed to do?
What IVF patients really want is a caring, compassionate , competent doctor , who is willing to go out of his way to look after them well.
 The only way you can find such a doctor is by finding a boutique IVF clinic , where the doctor is hands on and takes care of his patients because he enjoys doing this.
This is far better than going to a corporate chain, where your care is outsourced to assistants, which have an assembly line of lots of doctors , who treat you like a widget.
These clinics are so busy that the doctor just doesn't have time to provide personalised care to you.

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Friday, August 30, 2019

How IVF patients can reduce their anxiety and fears about IVF

An IVF cycle can be difficult to go through because of all the fear and anxiety which every IVF patient has.
The biggest worry is the unpredictability of the outcome - will the cycle will work or not ?
They are also burdened with many myths and misconceptions , based on secondhand information , or old wives' tales they have read about . They are worried about the risks of IVF and its complications such as the need for bedrest ; or that it's painful.
The best way to reduce this anxiety and fear is by making sure that patients spend some time in informing themselves about the medical details of the IVF process.
In a perfect world, there would be counselors who would educate patients , and doctors would spend as much time as the patient needed, to clear their doubts. However, that's not going to happen, and patients need to be proactive and figure out how to separate the truth from the myths for themselves.
The more they know, the more in control of their cycle will be.
In fact, they'll be able to look forward to what's happening , because they'll be able to anticipate and predict what the next steps are. Seeing the photos of your embryos can give you a high, if you are awaiting this major event !
This is why patients need to invest in Information Therapy, so they know what hurdles they need to overcome in their IVF cycle, to be able to get a baby. Being prepared can help them cross these with much less angst !

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Thursday, August 29, 2019

Analysing a failed IVF cycle

A failed IVF cycle can be heartbreaking, but the important thing is to analyze what went right and what didn't go right , so that we can plan better for the future.
Now there are only three tangible variables we can dissect.
One is the thickness and texture of the endometrium - what's called the endometrial receptivity. If the endometrium on the ultrasound scans was trilaminar and more than 8 mm thick, this means it was receptive. If it wasn't ideal, then additional tests such as a hysteroscopy could be done to analyze the uterine cavity. However,   if the uterine lining was optimal, then additional tests such as the expensive ERA ( Endometrial Receptivity Assay ) tests are a waste of time and money. Read more at
The second is the embryo - its grade, and the number of cells it has.  This is why embryo photos are so important. You can see what embryos should look like at If the embryos aren't good, then you need to change the lab, or the superovulation protocol. If the embryos were top quality, then a new highly hyped test which promises to provide more information about top quality embryos is called PGS, where we analyse the genetics of the embryo. Sadly,  PGS reduces pregnancy rates. Read more at
The third is the actual mechanical process of the embryo transfer. If this was technically smooth, then there's no need to make any changes in this.
All these fancy new test such as ERA and PGS are very profitable for the doctor to do, but they aren't clinically useful at all , so please don't waste your money on them , because they don't provide any useful clinically actionable information.

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Wednesday, August 28, 2019

The emotional baggage which IVF patients carry

Infertile couples usually suffer from low self esteem , because they can't even do something as simple as making a baby in their bedroom - a simple natural biological process which millions of women can do without any effort whatsoever , and have been doing flawlessly for centuries.
This affects their self-image, and because others either sympathize with them , or look down on them, this makes it even harder, and they end up becoming social recluses.
When they finally gather up their courage to do an IVF cycle , and when this fails as well , the confidence which they have in IVF doctors also takes a beating.
The problem is that IVF doctors tend to overpromise, especially when they want the patient to do their first cycle with them.
When the cycle fails, they often abandon the patient, and patients feel cheated . They resent the fact that they didn't get any answers from the doctor.
Many clinics hide basic medical information from IVF patients, and patients can't understand why the doctor is being so evasive. This experience colors their perception of all IVF doctors, and they often refuse to try IVF ever again , no matter how good the new clinic may be.

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Tuesday, August 27, 2019

Can you trust your IVF doctor?

Trust is an integral part of a doctor patient relationship, and it helps to improve your chances of    IVF success ! If you respect and trust your doctor , and he respects and trusts you, you will be able to work together to achieve your goal.
The trouble is that much of IVF medicine has become commercialized today .
It's hard for doctors to be able to create that trust, and patients are pretty much forced to do whatever they're told to do.
There isn't enough time for them to sit down and talk to the doctor, and they often feel short-changed and cheated when things don't go well.
This is why it's so important that IVF doctors learn to be open and transparent !
This is the best way of letting patients know that they are reliable and honest. By sharing information with patients and documenting it, they are signalling they are competent and caring.
This is why it's so important that patients ask the IVF doctor for photos of their embryos during the IVF cycle. This helps to keep everyone honest !

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Monday, August 26, 2019

The IVF patient's fears

One of the biggest fears which IVF patients have when they go to an IVF clinic is that the doctor will advise them to do IVF , whether they actually need it or not !
This is a valid concern , because IVF is a much more expensive treatment than the alternatives.
If there are simpler, less expensive treatments available ( such as IUI), then these could actually help the patients to get pregnant in a far more cost-effective manner.
The patient's unexpressed fear is that the IVF doctor may want to maximize his income , and may not discuss simpler, cheaper options with them.
This is why it's so important that patients be well-informed. They need to do their homework, so they have a chance to think through all their options.
A good IVF doctor will always explain alternatives to you, starting all the way from nonmedical options such as adoption, all the way to simpler treatment options. He will discuss the pros and cons of each , rather than try to force you to do IVF just because he happens to be an IVF clinic.
That's the advantage of going to an experienced doctor, who is not practising medicine just to make money !

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Saturday, August 24, 2019

The problem with bad IVF clinics.

In an ideal world, all IVF clinics would be equally good. They would have high quality control standards; they would be open and transparent; and would share information proactively and routinely with all their patients .
This way, whether or not patients got pregnant, they would have peace of mind that they received good quality treatment.
Tragically, this just does not happen in India today , and sadly the government hasn't done a good job with regulating IVF clinics, which means the quality can be extremely patchy. This means that while we do have some world class clinics, we have some terrible ones as well, which take their patients for a ride.

This is why it's so important that patients be proactive , and learn to figure out the difference between a good and a bad IVF clinic.
The good news is it's very easy to do so - all you need to do is to check photos of your embryos !
The bad news is that bad IVF clinics end up damaging the reputation of the entire IVF profession. And once patients have burned their fingers with one IVF clinic, they're very reluctant to go to a second one, because they think all clinics are created the same , and will cheat them.

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The IVF expert patient

Friday, August 23, 2019

IVF video on interpreting your HCG Levels !

Is your doctor a good IVF doctor?

The problem is that it's very hard for patients to answer this question because all doctors look pretty much the same.
They all seem to have the same fancy degrees; posh clinics; and lots of patients.
And because they advertise so heavily, it's very hard for patients to differentiate one from the other. Since it's difficult for patients to judge technical competence, they are forced to rely on the doctor's bedside manner. The problem is that the senior doctor is in " sell mode " during the first visit, and is doing his best to get you to sign up.
The trouble is that you aren't going to see the same doctor again when you actually start your treatment ! This will get delegated to juniors and assistants, most of whom are clueless and inexperienced.
This is why you need to ask just one simple question before you start your IVF cycle !
"Do you provide photos of the embryos to all your patients routinely?"
And if a clinic doesn't do that, that means something's wrong ! After all, the only thing an IVF clinic can do is make embryos , and good clinic provide photos routinely which patients can see for themselves , so that they know that they have received good quality treatment !

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Thursday, August 22, 2019

Why don't all IVF clinics routinely give embryo photos to their patients?

Good IVF clinics routinely and proactively provide all their patients with photos of their embryos.
Not only does it document that they have provided high quality care, it also allows the patient to bond with their yet-to-be-born baby !
This is standard practice all over the world, but sadly, lots of clinics in India still fail to do so. This is in spite of the fact that they spend lots of money on advertising and branding, and claiming they have high success rates !
I can't understand why they will not share this basic information with their patients. After all, the only tangible deliverable an IVF clinic can provide is make embryos. Once the embryos are transferred, we have no control on whether or not they will implant.
IVF clinics make embryos routinely all the time , and the equipment to take photos is very basic.
I now believe that the only reason they don't do this is because they're not very happy with the quality of the embryos they produce. They are not confident about their lab , or the clinical care they provide, which is why they're opaque and hide information from patients.
This makes a bad situation worse , because this increases the distrust which patients have in IVF doctors. And when the IVF cycle fails, the patients rightly feel this was because the doctor didn't do a good job !
You can see what embryos should look like at
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IVF video on how to find out why your IVF cycle failed

Wednesday, August 21, 2019

IVF Success rates - what IVF patients need to know

IVF as a game of chance

IVF patients know that the outcome of an individual IVF cycle is completely unpredictable; and that their chances of getting pregnant increase , the more the number of cycles they do, because the cumulative conception rate progressively goes up.
But it's still a matter of odds, which is why you could think of it as a game of chance.
The good news is that it's not a random game , where you are forced to take your chances with your eyes shut.
There's a lot you can do to maximize your chance of getting pregnant.
Step number one is to do your homework.
Make sure you're well informed and that you understand everything which should be done in an IVF cycle. Learn the difference between the stuff which is in your control; the stuff which is in the doctor's control; and the stuff which no one can control.
This way, no matter what the final outcome is , you're happy that the process itself was done properly, so that you have peace of mind that you didn't leave any stone unturned in your quest for a baby.
It's also very helpful to make sure that you get a second opinion to confirm that you're on the right path.

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Tuesday, August 20, 2019

IVF packages and how to make sense of them! IVF video

Using K-Y jelly reduces your fertility !

Sometimes  infertile couples inadvertently inflict infertility on themselves , because they don't know any better !
Thus, many infertile couples will use lubricants such as K-Y jelly during sexual intercourse. This is because having baby making sex on demand can be a chore , and can cause the wife pain because of inadequate vaginal  lubrication ( superficial dyspareunia) because she is not sexually aroused during love making.
 The trouble is that K-Y Jelly is spermicidal, but this is not something which patients know. Sadly, most doctors don't seem to know this either.
This means they actually end up reducing  their fertility by using it - and the irony is that they could very well have got pregnant on their own if they hadn't used it !
The secret is to use a sperm-friendly lubricant, and liquid paraffin is cheap and easily available at any chemist's  shop.
The tragedy is that ignorance can cause infertile couples to reduce their own fertility.
This why doing a consultation with an infertility specialist to make sure you're on the right track can make such a big difference !

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Saturday, August 03, 2019

The commonest mistake IVF patients make

They assume that because they have failed an IVF cycle in one clinic, there's really no point in going to a second clinic , because they believe that all clinics are the same.
After all, if the first clinic they've gone to is not being able to achieve success, then why will a new clinic be able to do a better job?
After all, when they chose the first clinic , they did a lot of homework, checked references, and made sure that their doctor was a good doctor.
They were happy with the treatment they received ; they like their doctor; and were treated with respect. If the cycle still failed inspite of the fact that their doctor was good, then they assume that's because of bad luck , and there's nothing much any one can do about it.
This is why they are happier sticking to the same clinic, because they now have a relationship with the doctor.
However, this is often a mistake , because the reality is that not all IVF clinics are created the same , and it does make a big difference which clinic you select !
This is why patients need to understand the difference between a good and a bad clinic , and just going to a doctor who has a good bedside manner is not enough !
The good news is that it's very easy to differentiate between good clinics and bad clinics !
Good clinics will always routinely give embryo photos to all their patients. If your clinic fails to do so, this is a red flag, and means you should get a second opinion as soon as possible !

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Friday, August 02, 2019

परिष्कृत आईवीएफ मरीज़ों को टेक्नोलॉजी क्यों पसंद है और यह उन्हें कैसे ... Hindi IVF video

Not all IVF clinics are the same

Many IVF patients are quite naive and they believe that all IVF doctors are equally good .
This is why they will often select an IVF  clinic based on its advertising or its branding, or because their doctor has referred them to that clinic. But this is very naive !
No matter how posh the ambience may be, what you're really interested in is the skill and the quality of the doctors who are actually going to be treating you ! Is the IVF lab any good ? Are the doctors good at superovulating you ?
These are not easy questions to answer, but the reality is that not all IVF clinics are the same ! Unless you  learn to ask the key tough medical questions, you are not going to be able to differentiate between good clinics and bad clinics, and this will reduce your chances of getting pregnant.
The good news is that what you need to ask for is very simple - it's just a single question !
Do you provide photographs of embryos routinely to your patients?
If the clinic does so , this means you know you're in safe hands !

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Thursday, August 01, 2019

अगर सिर्फ एक ही एम्ब्रीओ है, तो ट्रांसफर तीसरे दिन करें या फिर पाँचवे दिन. Hindi IVF video

The IVF expert patient

Many IVF patients are quite clueless about the medical details of their IVF treatment, and this is because of two reasons.
Firstly, many believe that they should let the IVF doctor do what he thinks is right. Why challenge his authority by asking him questions ? After all, he is the expert, and knows what to do , which means there's no need to ask questions.
Secondly, they believe that IVF is so complex that they're not going to be able to understand anything about the technical minutiae. Isn't a little knowledge dangerous ? Why try to become " half doctors" and second guess the doctor ? Why not just allow the doctor the freedom to do whatever he thinks is right?
Now, this is fine if you are lucky and select a good clinic, but what happens if you end up in a bad clinic? These are often commercial enterprises who will over-test and over-treat , because their priority is to make lots of money. You will end up wasting a lot of time, money and energy, and you will never end up having the baby. The tragedy is that you could have got pregnant if you had has the sense to select a good clinic !
Now, in order to differentiate between a good clinic and bad clinic, you need to know exactly what's happening, which is why you need to do your homework. 
Good doctors  are open and transparent about what they're doing for you and why, and this why they will share everything they do during your IVF cycle, including providing you with photos of your embryos routinely.

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