Infertile couples often feel very sorry for themselves

They feel that life is very unfair and that they are being deprived of one of the greatest pleasures which a couple can have - having a baby. They are often lose faith in God because they feel they're being punished for no fault of theirs. They often envy other couples who have kids; and their heart breaks when they see starving beggar children , who are forced to fend for themselves.

One of the commonest refrains is - why me ?

This is one of those deep philosophical questions for which we have no answer. However, rather than wallow in self-pity ( which just makes a bad situation worse ) , it's better for them to reframe their perspective. One of life’s secrets is that the best way to help yourself is to help others. Infertile couples sometimes forget how fortunate they are-and the very fact that you are reading this means you are amongst the top five percent of the global population because you have access to a computer and are literate.

There's a lot you can do to help others , so don't underestimate your capabilities. You can choose to volunteer and help the underprivileged. When you see some of the miserable conditions under which so many people subsist in today's world firsthand, hopefully you'll remember to be grateful for what you do have , instead of focusing on what you don't , which just leads to unhappiness.

Please learn to give appreciation and gratitude for what you have. Being infertile can be hard , but it's something which can teach you a lot of life-lessons. Infertility will help you to mature very quickly as an adult, and become more empathetic because you're experiencing some pain , grief and suffering yourself. What you choose to learn from this experience is completely up to you-never forget that !