While lots of older women know that donor egg IVF would give them the best chance of having a baby, many are very worried as to whether they will be able to love a child born using donor eggs ? After all, we are all hard-wired into wanting to perpetuate our genes, and this is a perfectly valid doubt.
I remind my patients - It's not the DNA in a baby which makes a baby yours - it's the love you give your baby !
The answer has to come from your own heart - and it's usually the parents who worry about their ability to love a donor egg baby who end up making the best parents .
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The time we spend taking care of the children is what makes the bonding meaningful. When you care for someone , especially babies , you just fall in love , doesn't matter whose genes the baby is carrying. Even if the baby is of our own genetic makeup , if we do not take care for the baby's needs , the baby is not going to love you , neither will you feel the love and bonding. Caring is what which ultimately leads to love and not the other way around.
ReplyDeleteThis is the reason why Yasoda becomes important in Lord Krishna's life than Devaki.
Ultimately,
"It's the time you spent on your rose that makes your rose so important.."