Spirituality and IVF treatment it might seem unusual that an IVF doctor is talking about spirituality, but the reality is that IVF treatment is highly taxing on the patient. No matter what you do, the outcome of an IVF cycle is always going to be uncertain because there are so many moving parts and so many variables, and we cannot control the final outcome because even though our technology is very good at making embryos, once you put that embryo, that blastocyst is back inside the uterus, whether it's going to implant or not is something you can't control, and not something a doctor can control either.
And this is why IVF doctors need to be humble and realize that there is a lot we can do, but equally, there's a lot we can't do, and that's why it's important that patients have realistic expectations as to where the problems arise. When doctors make huge promises, when they promise the patient the earth and the moon, don't worry, our success rates are 90%.
You're young, your chances are very good, there's a top-quality embryo, of course, you're going to get pregnant. And then, because the patient's hopes are so high, misleading the eye, of course, because the doctors are lying to them, when that cycle fails, the patient goes to pieces. The patient is crushed. The patient was sure she was going to get pregnant. The doctor told her she was going to get pregnant. Then when the cycle fails, she doesn't know what to do next and therefore she takes her anger out on the doctor. But you know what, the doctor magically starts telling a completely different story I did everything possible.
It's just your bad luck. You're in that 10%. All the other 10 patients in my clinic got pregnant. You must have done something wrong. Maybe you did not rest or you got too stressed out or you didn't take the medicines, classical victims, blaming bad doctors these are the same doctors who hide information from patients and do not give them photos of the embryos. So there's no transparency, no accountability, no instability, and the poor patient is tough and the patient is forced to believe what the doctor tells them even though it's a complete lie.
And that's why spirituality is so important because it gives the patient a certain degree of stability and a certain degree of being able to cope with uncertainty. An IVF cycle is full of ups and downs and you never know which cycle is going to work or why it didn't work, so when the cycle is going well, you're growing eggs, you have good quality embryos, you hope for them but they don't implant, you get depressed.
It can be very hard to live with these ups and downs and that's why with spirituality you understand that there's lots of stuff in your life that you can't control. If nothing else, spirituality helps you come to terms with the fact that there is no point in worrying about the hundred things in life which you can't control you only need to focus on the things which you can. The good news is that there's a lot in your control and the most important thing in your control is being well-informed about IVF treatment so you can find the right IVF doctor.
You want a doctor who's open and transparent kind, shares information with you, and tells you exactly what's going on, so you are in safe hands. You need to be able to find a doctor whom you can trust. You don't need to become an IVF expert, if you find the right IVF expert, that's the secret and the only way to do that is by investing in information therapy and also understanding that not everything is in human hands. The sooner you do this, the easier the ride will be for you.
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