Saturday, January 23, 2016

What to do when you don't know what to do

Infertile couples are often faced with many doubts and dilemmas, and they're not sure how to proceed.  For example, should we use donor eggs ? or donor embryos ? or try once more with our own eggs ?

No matter how much you read, and how many people you ask for advice, you will still have to make the final decision yourself. Also, you may find yourself completely confused the more you read, because there are so many different opinions, and they all seem sensible.  However, how do you know if they apply to your specific circumstances ?

Often patients will ask  investors like me for my advice. It's very tempting to provide them with an answer , based on my experience with what other patients have done when faced with a similar problem; or on what my perceptions are.

However, my favorite answer to this kind of question is - I don't know, and the only way to find out is by doing a thought experiment. Do your homework so you understand your options; pretend that you have selected Option A, and then see how comfortable you are with it. After 2 days, do the same with Option B, and so on. Keep a diary, so you can listen to what your heart is telling you.
At the end of a week , you will find what the right answer is for you. Trust your gut !  You will become much more confident that you made the right choice, when you combine both head and heart in your decision making process !

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