Tuesday, May 28, 2019

Logic vs emotions after a failed IVF cycle

Dealing with a negative HCG after a failed IVF cycle can be extremely hard, both for the patient and the doctor. The natural tendency is to want to blame someone ! What went wrong ? Who messed up ? It's natural to want to find someone we can criticize.
The mother-in-law may criticize the patient for not taking enough bed rest - and the patient may accuse the doctor for not doing a good enough job.
This is the time when you need to be logical rather than emotional.
Yes, your heart is breaking, and you can't think straight, and this is why you may end up making a lot of irrational decisions. Under pressure, you may decide to change the clinic , or use third party options, such as donor eggs or donor sperm. You are emotionally vulnerable, and your doctor may misguide you if he is not ethical.
Take a break and give yourself some time to recover !
If the cycle went perfectly and a top quality blastocyst was transferred smoothly into an optimally prepared endometrium, then the reality is you just need to be patient and  repeat the cycle until it works. Getting frantic and changing something or doing something new out of desperation can cause harm, and you may end up reducing your chances in the long run.

What to find an IVF clinic which respects your time and intelligence ?

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