I am writing this at the request of Dr.Aniruddha Malpani with whom my wife underwent IVF procedure in November 2013 at it clicked at the first cycle by God's grace.
While I have tried to give the best analysis from my first hand experience,I have to mention that everybody's life and their situational factors are unique and there are no tailor made solutions to everybody's problem.
However, some points from my experience may be applied to their situation,and I would be happy if that helps the reader of this article.
OUR STORY
We had a very late marriage i.e when we both were above 35 years of age.
We got married in 1999.
After initial try by natural process for 2 years we went for check up with local gynac.in 2001.
All tests advised were taken.
We were shocked to know that we have crossed the hill and only can conceive with technological assistance.
After further consultations with other Doctors and medications we were unsuccessful.
This went on till 2002 when my mother became bed ridden and we had to abandon all our trials and take care of my mother, who subsequently expired in 2003.
Now the situation is we were at the early forties.
In 2005 we had to sell the house in which we were living, since it was ancestral property and the proceeds were divided amongst all legal heirs.This again took time and the attempt to get a child took a back seat.
We were not getting any younger.
However after settling in the new place we started trying vigorously but with little success..
It was then I consulted one good astrologer in Chennai who had to say that we were destined to have one child but only after we crossed fifty years.
Still we tried but did not succeed.
Then we consulted 2 more astrologers in Mumbai who also predicted exactly the same and they added that it would be only with technological help or we should go for adoption.
However we had crossed the legal adoption age and that was not possible. .
Hence we abandoned all our efforts for the time being.
However we consulted a dietician to keep our health in good conditions from all points of view and saw to it that we were fit otherwise.
NOW THE OPERATIVE PART
From our experience we believe that the following factors are very crucial for success in IVF 1)HEALTH CONDITION OF BOTH THE PARTNERS esp. the female who is going to bear the child.More importantly they should not suffer from diabetes/B.P./ thyroid problem/other chronic ailments.While this is equally applicable to normal conception this is more important in IVF conception.since the couple must have already failed in the attempts of normal conception and age is against the constituents.
Preferably all such problems should be sorted out before undergoing IVF.
2)TIMING OF IVF
From our experience it is preferable to consult some good astrologer to get the knowledge of favourable period from this point of view and carry out the procedure in the good period rather than trying out again and again and getting mentally and emotionally drained out.
3)SELECTION OF A GOOD IVF DOCTOR
This is very very crucial from all points of view There are very good Doctors in this field and there are also fly by night operators.who take you for ride.
WHY WE WENT TO DR.MALPANIS
DR.MALPANIS ARE A WELL KNOWN HUSBAND AND WIFE TEAM WHO PRACTISE IN ASSISTED REPRODUCTIVE TECHNOLOGY...
We were reading Dr.Malpanis' interviews in Times of India way back in early 2000 when we had no idea that one day we will undergo IVF at his clinic.
Further we had attended one lecture about wheat grass therapy in Dr.Malpani's library somewhere near Pedder road way back in 2004. and got to know about the Doctor's other medical help activities apart from the main one.
We first visited Dr.Malpani's clinic in 2012 for initial consultation and found out that the Doctor's explanation is (though fast) very lucid.They follow a need based approach on case to case basis which is very important.
The atmosphere at the clinic in general is quite good and the staff and nurses are very helpful and ever ready to help you out with your problems.
Apart from this,it is well known that Dr.Malpanis are in this line for a long period and their technical expertise is of highest quality.
4)PRE IVF CONTROL ON FOOD AND EXERCISE.
This is very important.It is better to avoid outside food at least 6 to 8 months before going in for IVF since we do not know what are the ingredients that go in to make the food at the outside eateries and hotels.
HOME COOKED FOOD IS THE BEST.
Also it is necessary to understand that one should cook the food and eat it within 2 hours so that all the vitamins are in tact in the food that we eat.
The more we delay eating the food the less vitamins we get from the food.
Also from our experience one should avoid too much spicy or oily food as far as possible.
REGULAR EXERCISE IS ALSO GOOD FROM ALL POINTS OF VIEW.
5)POST IVF CARE
Now we come for the final part.
After following all the above steps i.e.choosing a favourable timing,choosing a good Doctor, taking care of your health and getting rid of toxins in your body etc.we go for this crucial step.
We underwent the IVF procedure in November 2013.
At the time of doing IVF I had no idea as to what food food we had to eat etc to make it a success.
It was then I asked this question to Dr.Anjali Malpani.
Her answer though laconic had set my mind thinking.
SHE SAID -1) YOU CAN GIVE HER NARIYAL PANI AND 2)YOU APPLY YOUR MIND.
It was then I started thinking deeply.
I started giving nariyal pani to my wife daily.In addition food that had lot of watery contents viz.DHUDI, SAFED BOPLA, PODWAL etc. were given in the first 25 days till Beta HCG tests(for confirming
pregnancy) were taken.
The thinking and analogy was just as plants/flowers require water to grow so also the human embryo requires watery food to grow.(Plants grow fast in cooler atmosphere).
Also you have to avoid too much spicy or oily food ( only home cooked food).
Regular food intake is essential.Adequate water intake is very essential.
Avoid food that has contracting capacity.
Preferably avoid Ajwine,Hing etc
Also avoid pain killers and tablets like gelusil etc which is normally in ordinary times used to control gas.
All medications should be strictly under medical supervision.
Cut down on coffee/tea and other beverages.AVOID ALL COLD BEVERAGES AND COLAS.
Have good sleep and rest but be sure that you are physically otherwise active.
DO NOT LIFT ANY HEAVY OBJECTS.NO HARD LABOUR.DO NOT BEND TOO OFTEN UNLESS IT IS ABSOLUTELY NECESSARY.
IF POSSIBLE VISIT VARIOUS WEBSITES TO GET KNOWLEDGE( THOUGH SOMETIMES THIS MAY BE CONFUSING) BUT THEN YOU HAVE TO TAKE AN INFORMED DECISION.
THE IDEA IS KEEP CONSTANTLY THINKING WHAT BEST TO DO, GIVEN THE CIRCUMSTANCES.
Once pregnancy is confirmed via the relevant tests, immediately consult a good gynac.
Follow all advice of the Doctor.Take all medications regularly EVERY DAY IS A FRESH CHALLENGE.
DO NOT BE OVER CONFIDENT AS WELL AS DO NOT BE OVER CAUTIOUS.
BE NORMAL IN YOUR DAY TO DAY LIFE.
Our baby was born in July 2014.
God has blessed us with a girl child.
6)POWER OF PRAYERS AND DIVINE HELP.
Whatever activity we do,divine help is necessary.Prayers do help us to improve our mental balance and calmness.
In this context regular prayers do help a lot.
However over indulgence like fasting etc. should be strictly avoided.
For those who DO NOT believe in God.my advice is -be good to fellow human beings.That itself is Godliness.
Hope this write up is useful to the readers.
BEST WISHES.
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