Infertility can be a blessing

Infertile couples think of infertility as possibly being the worst experience they have ever been through. Most still think of infertility as being a curse , and it's true that being infertile can be extremely stressful.

However, there are advantages to being infertile as well , and sometimes reframing your prospective will allow you  to make the best of a bad situation.

 So here are the three boons which infertility confers.

 1.    Being infertile changes you as a person. Some people become bitter, angry and unhappy, and stop believing in God because they think he has given them a raw deal. Marriages will also break up because of the stress of stress of infertility . However, this is just one side of the coin. Many marriages will become much stronger,  because if you can weather the storm of being infertile, nothing in the future will ever harm your marriage . Similarly, because you experience first-hand what it's like to want something badly and still not be able to get it , some infertile couples become kinder, more compassionate , and more empathetic , because their suffering transmutes them. Because you have suffered pain, you will be able to understand someone else's suffering better .

2.    Most infertile couples are young , and being infertile is the first time they are forced to come to terms with the fact that not everything is in your control . You learn a bit of humility , and are likely to become a little more spiritual . This can help to deal better with life's uncertainties , because you learn the hard way that not everything is in your control .

3.    Finally, the biggest bonus by far is that when you do have a baby, you are likely to be a far better parent than the average couple . You are going to spend so much more time , love and energy on your child that she is going have a head start as compared to anyone else's children .

Yes, I know it's hard being infertile, and you might think of this advice as meaningless preaching by an IVF doctor who doesn’t understand what infertile couples have to go through.

Trust me, I understand your pain, but it’s upto you to change your perspective , so you can transform that pain into a blessing.

Please remember the Serenity Prayer

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change;

The courage to change the things I can;

And the wisdom to know the difference.