I re-read a humorous book titled “A Few Good Eggs: Two Chicks Dish on Overcoming the Insanity of Infertility”, written by Julie Vargo and Maureen Regan. As the title suggests, this is chick lit at its best for infertile women ! It takes a very refreshing light-hearted look at infertility. It has been written in a funny tone , and if you love humor, you will find this book interesting , as it will help you to tackle your infertility.
Here are a few of the great tips this book offers .
1. Never think you are alone
The biggest problem many infertile women face is dealing with the solitude caused by infertility. The world seems to be full of babies - and you suddenly feel very abandoned , since you don’t have a baby! People around you may be very unsympathetic and there may be no social support. The trick is to keep yourself engaged constructively, so you don’t start wallowing in self-pity.
2. Keep your cool
This can be a real challenge when people are inadvertently unkind or deliberately cruel . You need to learn to manage your temper and not lose your cool. This is a valuable life skill to learn – and there are many tools to help you do this – ranging from your mother’s wise advise to count to ten; to practicing vipassana.
3. Don’t let failure get you down
Remember that if an IVF treatment fails, this is not the end of the world , and it doesn’t mean that you are domed to be childless or that you are not capable of getting pregnant. There are several reasons why a single IVF cycle may fail - and patience is an important virtue all humans need to cultivate – especially if you are infertile .
4. Research and learn
There’s no need to become an IVF specialist, but doing research about infertility will help you take control of your life !
5. Take time to have a hearty laugh
This will help you stop feeling sorry for yourself. Humour is a very valuable antidote to many of life’s ills – and will help you cope better with your infertility blues. Reading this book will help !
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