After the IVF cycle fails

I just got this email from a patient.

My wife is suffering from PCO. We are trying for a baby for last 7 years.My wife's AMH is 6.95. We recently opted for IVF but it failed. Our doctor was happy with the stimulation. 12 eggs were retrieved and seven were fertilised. They carried out third day embryo transfer. Embryologist claimed that all embryos were of very good quality. They transferred three embryos.But now they say that my wife's eggs are of very poor quality and that is why the cycle failed. . Now we are confused about what to do next.

This is a very common problem. Doctors are hopeful and optimistic at the time of the transfer. However, when  the cycle fails, they blame the patient for the failure.

They come up with all kinds of creative reasons ! Either the eggs were bad, or the sperm were abnormal, or the lining was thin, or the immune system "rejected " the embryos.

Patients understandably feel cheated when the doctor sings such a different tune after the cycle has failed, and this is why they find it hard to trust IVF doctors.