Why IVF patients feel they have lost control

IVF patients have lots of worries and concerns – and quite rightly so , because they don't know what the outcome of the IVF cycle is going to be . They obsess about lots of things and their mind plays all kinds of games with them ! Will I grow enough eggs ? Will my uterus reject the embryo ? Will my doctor be kind ? What if my embryos are not of good quality ? They also often have many regrets . I wish I had done IVF 5 years earlier, when I was younger ! I wish I had found this doctor earlier ! I wish I had insisted on getting photos of my embryos ! I wish my husband had a better sperm count !

A lot of these worries and concerns are misplaced , because there’s very little which a patient can do about these. These are “sunk costs” – and worrying about them cannot change anything, because they are outside the patient’s control. There’s little point in fretting about things you cannot fix – this really does not help anyone at all.  It’s far better to focus your energies on the things you can change !

The good news is that there is lots of stuff which you can do to improve your chances of getting
pregnant ! The key is what I called information therapy and it is important that you become a well-informed patient , so that you understand exactly what is happening to you . This way you have realistic expectations of the treatments – and even of the cycle fails , you have enough emotional resilience to be able to bounce back.

From a practical point of view, you will acquire the ability to judge how good your doctors are  - and whether they are providing you with good quality care . This is one of the most important variables which you can control –  selecting the best doctor is the one action item you can take which can maximize your chances of success !

IVF patients often feel they have lost control over their bodies because they cannot even make a baby on their own - something which millions of other women can do with such ease ! This is why they may feel inadequate , incompetent, and incomplete. At Malpani Infertility Clinic,   we allow them to regain control , by respecting their personal preferences and desires when we craft an individualised IVF  treatment plan for them.

Do you feel your IVF clinic treats you as a widget ? Please send me your medical details by filling in the form at www.drmalpani.com/malpaniform.htm , so that I can guide you better !