Do you dread attempting IVF, despite knowing that it is the one treatment that maximizes your chances of having a baby? It’s quite likely your major fear (which is completely normal) is that IVF does not have a 100% success rate. Your worry is that even after spending all that money, time and effort, you may end up with nothing to show for it. It’s this aspect that renders patients into a state of inactivity.
You’re emotionally vulnerable, and the possibility that even the most advanced medical treatment may not actually give you the baby you want so badly, can give you sleepless nights and nightmares. Just as most people are unable to confront their own mortality, most couples simply shut out the thought that they may have to remain childless for the rest of their lives.
When Emotions Get in the Way
This worsens the problem; when you let emotions get in the way, you’re unable to think straight and make the right decisions. This impasse is often exacerbated by the fact that your spouse may not agree as to which treatment option is best for you. There are times when the husband might be open to adoption, while the wife will simply refuse to even consider it. Her concern may be that her family might not accept the adopted child.
The fact is that men tend to look for short-cuts, and overlook the underlying complexity of emotions and issues of the situation. On the other hand, women are more tuned to take a long-term perspective and weigh the pros and cons in a more level-headed manner. In addition, the social pressures that infertile couples are subjected to, tend to make matters worse. Different people tell you different things and at the end of it all, you just aren’t sure about who you can trust.
The Best Solution
In such a situation, the best solution is to move forward and take action; but it’s not something you should be doing in a hurry. You will have to carefully explore all your options and make a well-informed decision. What it also means is that you will have to do your homework and be realistic in your expectations about any treatment. The only thing in your hands is to follow the proper process. This way, regardless of whether you get pregnant or not, you will at least have peace of mind that you tried your best.
The problem is that in most instances, infertile couples are so fraught with stress and distress that the default action is to do nothing at all. Very frankly, this is the worst thing to do. It’s important that you listen to your heart as well as your head, and follow a very logical systematic framework. Make a detailed list of all the options before you and then methodically work your way through that list and look for an option that suits your circumstances the best.
Being infertile is an extremely emotional experience. It affects your self-esteem, and makes you feel bad about yourself. It shakes you up as well as your faith in God and causes a drift between couples too. Infertility can draw a very heavy price from those who suffer from it.
On the other hand, if you think of it as a challenge and learn to overcome this, the strength which you can derive from this battle can be a very healing experience. Infertility can teach a lot of life lessons – it’s up to you to decide which lessons you want to learn!
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