Many infertile patients have low self-esteem because they cannot have a baby. They are socially stigmatised and isolated and often have an inferiority complex. This is why they are emotionally very vulnerable, and many do not seem to be able to make the right medical decisions for themselves. Many doctors exploit this helplessness, and misguide patients.
It's important that you stop thinking of yourself as a pawn. You are the Queen of your life, and are very capable of charting your own life's course. The best way of regaining control is by arming yourself with the information you need; and exploring all the options, so that you have peace of mind you did your best !